Monday, March 4, 2019
The Obstacle I Face in College
Miaodan XuProfessor Bradley FoxEnglish 1101 D36528 March 2018 My Obstacle to College Being a Student and a MotherWhile I agree with the point that many college freshmen are facing the obstacle around feeling lonely in their unexampled college environment, emphasized by dog-iron Bruni in his article The Real Campus Scourge, I face a contrasting obstacle because I seduce to isotropy being a 24-hour on-duty develop and a full- m college assimilator. Im 30 years old, and the mother of a 19-month-old tot boy.I started college when my son, Jace was 18 months old. Before I went to college, I was taking keeping of Jace each(prenominal) day succession long. I sang songs and lowered games with him every day. We went to the pose and attended story-time-class in McKinney Library together every week. I vigilant baby nourishment and changed diapers 5 to 6 times a day for Jace. I excessively washed and sterilized milk bottles each day. straight everyaffair has changed. I dont b ugger off enough time to look after Jace any much. I have four days of classes and I need to work harder and come about more time on my courses since my English is not as effectual as native students.Usuall(a)y, I have to spend about deuce hours getting college from my house in Bensonhurst, Brooklyn, five hours in classes, and more than deuce hours doing homework. Although I devote a lot of time to studying for my courses, it stillness put forwards me the rest of the time to look after Jace. I am wish of sleep so far this semester. Therefore, my biggest obstacle is how to keep a balance between the roles of a mother and a college student.I had to muster up the fortitude to go to college since I had graduated from Guangzhou True Light High naturalize in Guangdong, China ten years ago. Besides, I have been unify and springn birth to my son. I am not as youthfulness as other students, and I have the responsibility to consequence carefulness of my child that other students do nt. Some people assert that mothers should devote all the time to doing family matters, and they dont even look at I abide finish college as a mother.My friend Jolin, a mother of two, was astonished when I told her that I was going to college in January, and said What? Are you kidding me? Thats unsufferable How can you cope care of your family and your classes at the same time? I know you, and I worry about you because you can only do one thing at a time Not only Jolin, but also my aunt Fay and my uncle Jin who lived in Flushing, Queens doubted if I could handle everything well for maternal quality and college. What they said made me hesitate whether it is right to go to college.I was so anxious. Finally, I strengthened my mind to start college after careful consideration. Its hard, I admit, but it is more measurable for me to prove to my child that any romance can be achieved. I securely told myself again and again, Nothing is impossible You really can do itIn addition to b eing doubted by others, another issue is that I have to find the time to give equal attention to both of my study and Jace besides housework. In aver to do housework and take care of my son, sometimes I have to start my studying night life when my family members are asleep. I have to be very careful not to make any tone to disturb them. I type keyboard slowly, click mouse slowly, open and scrawny the textbooks slowly to make it as quiet as possible, which may cut back off the quality of my educational tasks. Mean magic spell, it seems to be a precious time to babble out a song like Itchy bitsy spider to Jace every day.When I am doing homework at home, Jace ever comes to me. He wants me to hug him, play with him, or lie next to him while hes sleepy. Hes eager to do everything with me and take me to accompany him all the time. Undoubtedly I want to accompany him through with(predicate) every precious time, but I dont have enough time to study and do my homework in fact. When I am back home after class, I have to prepare baby food for Jace, wash and sterilize milk bottles, and wash the dirty clothes in the basement. I only have one to two hours of free time before Jace goes to sleep. Especially during the period when I was sick last week, everything went terrible. I had a cold, fewer, cough, sore throat, and felt very bad. I isolated myself in my bedroom because I was worried about the flu would infect Jace. Jace was taken care of by his grandmother, a 65 years old woman, who spend all her time on family matters. Jace wanted me as usual, but I really couldnt satisfy him due to my collapsed body.Its a difficult time for all of us, and its also cruel for us while Jace cried for me. Although its very hard for me to be a full-time college student as a mother, I believe I can balance two roles through the following methods starting time of all, I stay positive. In my opinion, a positive attitude is outstanding for everything. Sometimes I feel exhausted an d get stressed, then I would remind myself that The real man smiles in trouble, gathers strength from distress, and grows brave by reflection, which was said by Thomas Paine. I realize that smiling to get through stress is the best way to relieve stress. Also, I take fewer classes. If I take too many classes, it would become a lot more difficult to balance baby time and college time. though it takes me more time to graduate from college than the average student, Im get outing to spend more time focusing on the process of Jaces growth.Moreover, I study whenever and wheresoever I can. Usually I do homework, review notes, or transform articles when Jace is asleep, even just a short time while he takes a nap. On weekends, I study in the car while my husband is driving on the way to my mothers home or on the way to shopping malls. I strive to study every moment. Furthermore, I use a calendar. In fact, its impossible for me to remember everything in my mind. So I always use a calendar t o write downward(a) every assignment, every due date, every appointment, and all other important things. Besides, I make detailed schedules that specifying everything like when I should get up, take train, have meal, get rest, do homework, play with Jace, prepare meals for him, then nonplus to do them exactly the time I set up.Above all, it can be stressful to manage time while going to college and cosmetic surgery a child sometimes, but I insist I will try my best to do well in the roles of a college student and a mother. As I am not young anymore, I dont have much time to waste. I hunger to finish my bachelors decimal point as fast as I can without neglecting my child. My husband always encourages me that Having a baby isnt the end of your life, its just the beginning of a new adventure.Just remember that you can do whatever you want to do. convey to the support from my husband and the help from Jaces grandmother, I have the opportunity to go to college. Balancing well in bei ng a mother and a college student, I would take good care of Jace and do well in college. I wont let down my familys expectations and waste everything that they do for me. I firmly believe that Im setting a great example for Jace of the importance of education, and he will be proud of his mother who never give up what she insist on.